Fix syncapi shared users query & device lists (#2614)

* Fix query issue, only add "changed" users if we actually share a room

* Avoid log spam if context is done

* Undo changes to filterSharedUsers

* Add logging again..

* Fix SQLite shared users query

* Change query to include invited users

syncapi/internal/keychange_test.go

@@ -129,6 +129,7 @@ type wantCatchup struct {
 }
 
 func assertCatchup(t *testing.T, hasNew bool, syncResponse *types.Response, want wantCatchup) {
+	t.Helper()
 	if hasNew != want.hasNew {
 		t.Errorf("got hasNew=%v want %v", hasNew, want.hasNew)
 	}