Use `IsBlacklistedOrBackingOff` from the federation API to check if we
should fetch devices.
To reduce back pressure, we now only queue retrying servers if there's
space in the channel.
This makes the following changes:
- Adds two new metrics observing the usage of the `DeviceListUpdater`
workers
- Makes the number of workers configurable
- Adds a 30s timeout for DB requests when receiving a device list update
over federation
Preparations to actually remove/replace `BaseDendrite`.
Quite a few changes:
- SyncAPI accepts an `fulltext.Indexer` interface (fulltext is removed
from `BaseDendrite`)
- Caches are removed from `BaseDendrite`
- Introduces a `Router` struct (likely to change)
- also fixes#2903
- Introduces a `sqlutil.ConnectionManager`, which should remove
`base.DatabaseConnection` later on
- probably more
This removes most of the code used for polylith/API mode.
This removes the `/api` internal endpoints entirely.
Binary size change roughly 5%:
```
51437560 Feb 13 10:15 dendrite-monolith-server # old
48759008 Feb 13 10:15 dendrite-monolith-server # new
```
